Showing posts with label About girlfriends and friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label About girlfriends and friendship. Show all posts

Friday, April 25, 2014

"Will a tidy house make you happier?", asks Leah McLaren.

It's not that I'm not good at it!

Today is my birthday, and I just got my first gift: Leah McLaren's hilarious article Will a tidy house make you happier? in this morning's Globe and Mail. When I read her intro: "A tiny perfect 29-year-old Japanese woman has arrived in the West to explain how we can all fix our lives from the outside in.", I knew I was in for a treat. (Update March 4, 2016: Leah just published a new and hilarious article in the Globe on the two books by Marie Kondo, Japan's Queen of Clean.)


Last week, a friend casually commented that I'm not good at housekeeping. It occurred to me as a curious comment. Who is not good at housekeeping? It's not rocket science. I could beautifully clean up my whole house with a box of Q-tips if I wanted. But I don't. 

I thought that pointing out that I choose to do other things (more interesting to me) would not be gracious so I let it go. As I'm writing this post, I'm surrounded by post-tax report piles, last weeks' visitors bedding has not been put away yet, I see lots of finger marks on the wall by the computer and I can barely see through my windows.

The thing is, who am I to judge how people spend their time. I'm hoping people who are "good" at cleaning get more pleasure out of it than I do.

Spoiler alert
Leah McLaren ends her article with the McLeah housekeeping method. "First you look around your house; second, you lower your expectations; and third, you select a book from a random pile and read it." What's not to love about that woman!

My own version would be:"First you look around your house; second, you lower your expectations; and third, you call a girlfriend and go for a walk."  What would be yours?

Excerpt from Leah McLaren's second article on the subject
One of the six fake TIPs she created in the voice of Marie Kondo:
2. Imagine your ideal lifestyle
"In your mind's eyes, you are a tiny, flawlessly dressed Japanese woman living in a 600-square-foot Tokyo apartment who eats a small bowl of fish and seaweed each night before retiring in silence to her tatami mat to count her enormous book royalties on a paper-thin smartphone."

 



Monday, July 29, 2013

Girlfriends 1, husbands 0

The real reason why my walking guides are titled 
Toronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends.


























































I rest my case.  ;~)


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Friday, June 28, 2013

Heidi Wilk talks about a change of plans

In the Globe this morning, a touching essay by Heidi Wilk in the Facts & Arguments section.

When her husband, in his early thirties, was diagnosed with a brain tumour, she had to change her priorities to enjoy what was left of a ride she thought would be much longer.


Some pearls of wisdom she wrote:
"My relationships are now my prized possessions."
"Happiness is going for a walk with a friend, chatting over coffee, having a shoulder to cry on. No amount of material possession can provide that kind of comfort."




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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Time with girlfriends can lower stress levels

Are you stressed? I am!

We each have our reasons. Mine is that I'm waiting for a confirmation of Costco's order for my walking guides Toronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends. They gave a verbal order to my sales reps, there was a little glitch at the distribution level and now I'm waiting for it to get resolved. AGHR!!!! What's yours?

Time to see our girlfriends! 

And so would argue Dr. Laura Berman. Check her article on how time with girlfriends can lower our stress levels. And, as a bonus if you're in a relationship, it turns out that allowing yourself to see your girlfriends allows your partner to see his/her own friends. It means two less stressed people in the household. Imagine that! 


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Sunday, May 12, 2013

Toronto Urban Strolls marketed as a girlfriends' guide

Why a guide "for girlfriends"? 

When I launched into the writing of Toronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends, many people were wondering if positioning my walking guides as a reference for girlfriends was a wise decision. 
Anyone who's organized anything for a group knows it is more stressful when gender and age groups differ. 

I chose to envision my girlfriends when deciding on the points of interest along the strolls, without considering if my suggestions would bore husbands, boyfriends or children to tears. 

Bottom line: I don't need to explain to my girlfriends why I'm pointing out Winners stores (still a great mystery to my husband).


Photo taken from a blog on
How to hold a purse without compromising your dude-hood.
I found many similar blogs!
Are you man enough?
As I always say, this is a guide for girlfriends... and guys man enough to handle a guide for girlfriends. (You know, the kind of guy who can hold your handbag while you go to the washroom without loosing his cool.)


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Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Moms are people too!


Social grooming, anyone?


Who knew? It turns out there's more to my guideToronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends then a mere reference book to walks around Toronto. It is the perfect tool to fulfill a primal human need vastly neglected lately: the need for bonding.

Thanks to Twitter, I came across a few articles from a great website called Babble (for a new generation of parents). One of them, titled A Different Kind of Playdate, Why adults-only time is good for the whole family, really appealed to me.


(Phone photo of me with my oldest friend,
more than 40 years after we first met...)



I wrote my guides Toronto Urban Strolls 1 & 2 because I saw how most of us dream of long holidays and fancy vacations as if they were the only answer to recharge our batteries. Sometimes, all we need is a little adult timeout with our friends, a couple of hours for a walk and $20 for coffee and a treat in a cute café.


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