Showing posts with label Girlfriend tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Girlfriend tips. Show all posts

Friday, April 25, 2014

"Will a tidy house make you happier?", asks Leah McLaren.

It's not that I'm not good at it!

Today is my birthday, and I just got my first gift: Leah McLaren's hilarious article Will a tidy house make you happier? in this morning's Globe and Mail. When I read her intro: "A tiny perfect 29-year-old Japanese woman has arrived in the West to explain how we can all fix our lives from the outside in.", I knew I was in for a treat. (Update March 4, 2016: Leah just published a new and hilarious article in the Globe on the two books by Marie Kondo, Japan's Queen of Clean.)


Last week, a friend casually commented that I'm not good at housekeeping. It occurred to me as a curious comment. Who is not good at housekeeping? It's not rocket science. I could beautifully clean up my whole house with a box of Q-tips if I wanted. But I don't. 

I thought that pointing out that I choose to do other things (more interesting to me) would not be gracious so I let it go. As I'm writing this post, I'm surrounded by post-tax report piles, last weeks' visitors bedding has not been put away yet, I see lots of finger marks on the wall by the computer and I can barely see through my windows.

The thing is, who am I to judge how people spend their time. I'm hoping people who are "good" at cleaning get more pleasure out of it than I do.

Spoiler alert
Leah McLaren ends her article with the McLeah housekeeping method. "First you look around your house; second, you lower your expectations; and third, you select a book from a random pile and read it." What's not to love about that woman!

My own version would be:"First you look around your house; second, you lower your expectations; and third, you call a girlfriend and go for a walk."  What would be yours?

Excerpt from Leah McLaren's second article on the subject
One of the six fake TIPs she created in the voice of Marie Kondo:
2. Imagine your ideal lifestyle
"In your mind's eyes, you are a tiny, flawlessly dressed Japanese woman living in a 600-square-foot Tokyo apartment who eats a small bowl of fish and seaweed each night before retiring in silence to her tatami mat to count her enormous book royalties on a paper-thin smartphone."

 



Thursday, November 28, 2013

Cool gadget for fun walks: Fitbit

I love walking, so much so that I’ve written two Toronto walking guides, but do you know what really motivates me to stroll for kilometres? I choose a decadent destination far from home and invite friends to tag along. Do you know what is the source of my two techie friends’ motivation for walking? Fitbit.

Yannick is a programmer, and Lionel works as an Adobe teacher. As the two guys behind YummyBaguette.com, a website listing all the yummy shops where you can find chocolates, pastries, coffees, teas and other treats in Toronto, they are the ideal friends to bring along for a decent walk towards a decadent place!

Last spring, we decided to visit The Artisan Baker, located at 1423 Yonge, just south of St. Clair. Our starting point was the Novotel hotel on The Esplanade, about 5 km south of the restaurant and we resumed our walk after our brunch. (See Nathalie's walk around The Artisan Bakery.)



What’s that gadget?
We were making good progress on our stroll and our conversation, then I noticed that the guys were stopping from time to time to consult each other. I asked them if there was a problem. “Not at all”, they replied. They were simply comparing data from their respective Fitbits.


Yannick took out from his pocket a tiny gadget, no larger than a USB key, flashing the words “UCANDOIT”, then “YANN”. His goal was to walk 10,000 steps a day. His Fitbit was encouraging him! With their gadget, the guys could compare the number of strides that they had walked since the beginning of our stroll. 

My nerdy friends then had fun testing their instruments’ accuracy. Because Yannick’s legs are longer than Lionel’s, his Fitbit was indicating fewer steps for the same distance covered. When they swapped their Fitbits, the smart gadgets instantly adapted to their new owner.


Fitbit options 
Both tried to convince me to get a Fitbit. One of the appeals is that Fitbit allows you to follow (on your computer or smartphone) the progress of your friends who own one and have joined your group. This way, Lionel and Yannick always know which of the two is the most active. 

There’s nothing like finding out that your friend has walked 8,000 strides before lunchtime, while you’re still in your pajamas, to make you want to get moving! 

There are three types of Fitbit pedometers. Yannick had the Fitbit One, a clip-on model worth $100. (The Fitbit Flex bracelet also sells for $100.) Lionel had the Zip, a smaller clip-on model offered at $60. 

The three versions feature wireless communication with Mac or PC computers (and also with iPads, iPhones, and a few Samsung Galaxy models). The three of them can count the number of strides and distance walked, as well as the number of calories burned.



After our lovely brunch at The Artisan Baker, we strolled back to
the Novotel, our starting point. W
hen I said I would walk back to my home, my friends decided they didn't want me in their Fitbit group after all. Bad sports!

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Open the fridge. Nothing to eat.

Now, that's a strategy...

My son showed me this joke on Internet. I have gone through this motions a few times... And you? 

When this happens, it's often time to go for a walk!

By the way, in  Toronto Urban Strolls 2, there are three Stamina Building Strolls (Casa Loma Staircase Stroll, High Park Fitness Stroll and Upper Beaches Steep Hill Stroll).

Saturday, September 7, 2013

50 ways to take a break

I tumbled across this illustration on Facebook and retraced it to Karen Horneffer-Ginter. She's the author of Full Cup, Thirsty Spirit and on her website, she has posted a link to a poster called "50 ways to take a break", which we can buy online.

Here are some of the ways to take a break suggested by Karen, which will be greatly facilitated by using my walking guides Toronto Urban Strolls. (I know... shameless plug...)

Call a friend
Walk outside
• Go to a body of water
• Watch the clouds
Move twice as slowly
• Sit in nature
• Read a book, Read poetry, Write in a journal, Write a quick poem (in one of the café´s along the strolls) 
• Take deep belly laughs (by walking with your friends)
Meander around town
Eat a meal in silence
Turn off all electronics
• Go for a run
• Create your own coffee break
View some art
Examine an everyday object with Fresh Eyes
• Drive somewhere new
• Go to a park
• Read or watch something funny
• Go to a Farmer's Market
• Let out a sigh
Notice your body

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Arbonne: A girlfriend's experience with entrepreneurship

As a student, I sold my beachwear creations on consignment in several stores in Montreal. At university, I day-dreamed of a collection of room separators. As a young mother, I considered launching the production of a series of cool diaper bags I designed for myself. Finally, I quit my day job to start the small company Word-of-Mouth Production in order to publish my own books.

In my own experience, it seemed that the main appeal of entrepreneurship was the freedom (and pleasure) of marketing one's own creations. I was wrong...

As Daniel Pink, one of my favourite marketing authors, explains in his inspiring book Drive: Nowadays, the three main reasons driving people into action are autonomy, mastery and purpose.

Autonomy = Flexibility
No need to invent a product to get all these benefits, would argue Jeanne-Marie Robillard, who became an independent consultant for Arbonne in her spare times. No need for a business background neither. And you don't have to go at it alone!  

“As women, are always selling something. We tell our friends about the products we bought, the movies we saw, the books we read. We're selling to our kids the concept of homework, of going to bed at a specific time. I thought to myself, why not make some profit out of this!"

Jeanne-Marie didn't have ideas for a new product or service. But she knew she wanted to have more control over her future (even if she currently has a successful career within a big firm). When she had the opportunity to attend an Arbonne presentation hosted in a friend's home, she was hooked.

If you're not selling your own products, the most important thing is to find a company offering a line of products in which you believe unconditionally, with great marketing support and flexibility. She found it all with Arbonne, thrilled by the fact that she could give as much or as little time as she wanted to this new venture


Arbonne isn't the only company using this kind of direct marketing concept (greatly facilitated by the Internet). We all remember the Avon lady of our childhood, and Tupperware's home demonstrations. (Let's not get into Amway, who has helped give a bad name to direct marketing. And if your job hunting teenager announces that he's got a job interview with Vector Marketing, take a minute to google them to see what pops up! I was about to go and buy casual business attire for my 19 year-old's interview when I had the good idea to do a little research.) 


It's in the air
Lately, it seems that more and more commercial scenes are moving into the private homes. (I recently heard about Rent frock Repeat, an original company organizing fancy dress fitting parties for girlfriends in the intimacy of their home.) Maybe it has to do with the fact that, thanks to Internet, our life is a bit more isolated and we feel the need to create new way to socialize? 

I had been to a private session of jewelry selling before, where I felt obliged to buy something from a collection that did not appeal to me. (I'm stupid like that...)


When Jeanne-Marie invited me to an afternoon spa session she was organizing in her pretty house in Little Portugal, I wasn't too keen to go. I had not factored in the talent for this generous host to melt the ice at any social event with her genuine warmth.

A good match
Jeanne-Marie adored the Arbonne personal care products and knew many girlfriends who would like them as well. 

She had considered representing Pampered Chef, a company whose line of kitchenware she really enjoyed, but considering her girlfriends' and her own consumer behavior, she remembered  that when it comes to a skin care regime (or a hairdresser who understands you, or a pair of jeans that fit your body type) once we find one we like, it's a life commitment.

She figured it made more commercial sense to spend her free time selling beauty & wellness products with potential for repeat sales than a cooking pan with a life time warranty!

Jeanne-Marie quickly became the leader of a small team of her friends who also wanted to become independent consultants, and, being the party girl that she is, she felt an inclination for private girlfriends spa sessions where she'd invite her team and their potential customers. 

Thanks to this concept, when I visited, I entered a party where everyone knew at least one person. Wine helping (supplied by our host), the ambiance quickly took a very relaxed turn and our spa session in Jeanne-Marie's lovely bathroom had all the telltale signs of a fun girlfriends' party.



Arbonne's products are of great quality and man! do they smell good. Jeanne-Marie won't make a fortune out of me but I'll definitely join the ranks of regular customers reordering every year. 

About residual revenue
The potential for residual and passive revenue was a great motivator for Jeanne-Marie Robillard. When one has a fixed salary, the only way to increase her revenue is with a bonus or a job promotion. (Read the following article to learn more about residual and passive/leveraged revenue.) 

“I see it as a sort of pension plan. The time I currently devote to the building of a loyal clientele and a bigger team is generating profits in sales but mostly, it's generating residual revenue (my customers will reorder with very little prompting on my part) as well as passive revenue. Each time my team is selling, I get a commission without incurring additional work. I feel like I have more control over my financial life."

Passion in the making?
The best advice I could give to women  interested in this business model is to meet with someone already involved with the company, who they feel they can trust. If your gut feeling is sending red flags, simply move on to another reference person. 

If Arbonne interests you, I recommend you contact Jeanne-Marie (426-786-7697 ou jmrobillard@gmail.com) to find out when she hosts her next girlfriends' spa session at home. Bring a friend with you and have some fun while exploring the idea at your own pace. 




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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Time with girlfriends can lower stress levels

Are you stressed? I am!

We each have our reasons. Mine is that I'm waiting for a confirmation of Costco's order for my walking guides Toronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends. They gave a verbal order to my sales reps, there was a little glitch at the distribution level and now I'm waiting for it to get resolved. AGHR!!!! What's yours?

Time to see our girlfriends! 

And so would argue Dr. Laura Berman. Check her article on how time with girlfriends can lower our stress levels. And, as a bonus if you're in a relationship, it turns out that allowing yourself to see your girlfriends allows your partner to see his/her own friends. It means two less stressed people in the household. Imagine that! 


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Saturday, June 1, 2013

Labour of Love: Training my husband to buy the right gift


I love long whimsical necklaces. The only problem is gold better suits my skin tone than silver... and I don't have the budget for it (a dreamy Ippolita creation easily reaches $4,000).


So I've bought my share of shiny trinkets under $20 (you know, to match that new outfit). They never last long. I've moved on to better quality pieces ($60 range Guess, Anne Klein, Fossils). Very durable, but they would oxidate in reaction to my skin. 

Then, I fell in love with Holly Yashi's necklaces at Labour of Love (242 Carlton Street). Made out of niobium, as pretty as gold but rarer, light as a feather and 100% hypoallergenic, all the pieces showcased at Labour of Love had the modern gypsy look I favour.

The one I preferred was over $200. Too much for impulse buy, but perfect as a Christmas gift! 

My step-by-step approach 
With such an issue at stake, you'll agree with me it was not the time for subtleties and gift "suggestions":

1) I wrote down the designer's name and the piece number (Holly Yashi is actually a duo of designers with a creative team, check this clip) on Labour of Love's business card. 


2) Back home, I visited the designer's website, hunted down the necklace and printed a colour photocopy of it, to which I stapled the store's card.



3) I handed the photocopy to my husband. 



4) I dropped him at the door of Labour of Love. And suggested he meets me at Jet Fuel, the espresso bar on Parliament (a 3-minute walk from Labour of Love) once he's done.  



5) Finally, I acted surprised when he gave it to me two months later for Christmas. (He actually really surprised me, having bought the necklace's matching bracelet as well!  Aaaaw...) 

The gift of guilt-free indulgence
My teenage son was horrified when he discovered my unromantic step-by-step approach. I had to explain to him that what his dad actually gave me for Christmas was the gift of a guilt-free indulgence. (I would have felt bad treating myself with this kind of accessory. Now I can wear my beautiful necklace guilt-free.)

That was two years ago. Last Christmas, without my prompting, my husband returned to Labour of Love and got me another Holly Yashi creation.

By the way, niobium truly is hypoallergenic. My necklaces, which I wear regularly, are as shiny now as they were two years ago. What a treat!


Toronto Urban Strolls sold at Labour of Love
The gift and jewelry store Labour of Love is included in the Cabbagetown Nooks & Crannies Stroll which you'll find in my walking guide Toronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends 1.
Regina, the owner, has seen people showing up at her store with my guide in hand!

She now carries both guides:  Toronto Urban Strolls 1 (with 28 walks) and Toronto Urban Strolls 2 (with 24 additional walks, no overlap with the first guide).



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Saturday, May 4, 2013

Walk the talk says Nilofer Merchant at TED

Walking meeting: now that's an idea!

"Fresh air brings fresh thinking", says Nilofer Merchant in a 6-minute speech at TED. "Getting out of the box leads to out-of-the-box thinking."


Edwards Gardens Mansions Strolls (torontourbanstrolls.com)

I knew that combining seeing my girlfriends and walking was truly beneficial but I now realize the same logic applies to combining meeting and walking.

Next time you need to plan a meeting, you might want to try one of the more secluded walks in the two guides Toronto Urban Strolls 1 & 1. They all include a coffee shop!

Merchant is a business innovator and author of books such as The New How: Creating Business Solutions Through Collaborative Strategy.


Forest Hill Ravine Stroll including Cedarvale Park (torontourbanstrolls.com)

Old Mill River Stroll seen from Dundas West Bridge (torontourbanstrolls.com)



Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Moms are people too!


Social grooming, anyone?


Who knew? It turns out there's more to my guideToronto Urban Strolls... for girlfriends then a mere reference book to walks around Toronto. It is the perfect tool to fulfill a primal human need vastly neglected lately: the need for bonding.

Thanks to Twitter, I came across a few articles from a great website called Babble (for a new generation of parents). One of them, titled A Different Kind of Playdate, Why adults-only time is good for the whole family, really appealed to me.


(Phone photo of me with my oldest friend,
more than 40 years after we first met...)



I wrote my guides Toronto Urban Strolls 1 & 2 because I saw how most of us dream of long holidays and fancy vacations as if they were the only answer to recharge our batteries. Sometimes, all we need is a little adult timeout with our friends, a couple of hours for a walk and $20 for coffee and a treat in a cute café.


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